For the Love of Money

"The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively" Bob Marley

Marley is right, happiness comes from within and cannot be found in material or external things. Although, when it applies to marriage, or your future husband, you think of someone who is financially stable. Today, in our materialistic world, It is pretty obvious that every girl prefers a man that has a stable job. Nevertheless, in dating

apps a girl will rarely date a guy who does not own a good profession.

When I first started the world of mobile dating, I decided not to go on dates with guys that do not have ambition; I targeted guys who immediately showed me they have strive to get what they want. Most of [them] were doctors, engineers, or owners of startup companies who happened to also grab my attention due to their intellectual conversations. It was easy to dream of dating a guy who possess a good profession and not to worry about the financial aspects, however, what about love?

After all, I found myself chatting with a guy that did not possess any of [those] "qualifications". Although, he did work in a startup company, it was not [his] dream job, and [he] looked for a career change. I was concerned with [his] future plans as [he] was not in his 20's and seemed to endure many child-like habits. It scared me to stay in a relationship where I don't know how our future will look like, not to mention being in our 30's and wishing for a dream wedding and beautiful children. You keep surrounding yourself with questions like; "what would I be able to provide for my kids?", "would I have kids if I'm not financially stable?", and "how much I am willing to sacrifice with that guy?"

"Try to look for your fit and not the fit of others"- Bar S.

Am I willing to Compromise?

What if the guy you fall in love with is not stable. Would you compromise?

My answer to this question may rise many speculations among readers. If the life I am wishing for myself consists pleasures, success and a stable marriage, then the guy I should marry should have all of these qualities. Not possessing one of these qualities may create an unstable relationship in the long run. It is not a shame to like pleasures and wanting to give your children what they want.

At the end of the day, the guy you marry is the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with, who will make you happy in your household, in a relationship, socially, and who is perfect for you from every angle. If the finance aspect of life is important for you do not ignore it because you will always keep wondering "what if?"

"You can only feed in qualities to your lives that in the long run will be easier for you to give up on" -Hadar S.