Hard to Get

We are having a great time getting to know someone. We go out on a date and feel that there’s excitable, flirting sensations that cannot be explained. After the first date, they suggest hanging out two night in a row and tell us straight to our face that they like us!

This all sound amazing, right? But right when we think that everything is amazing, they decide to disappear or perhaps play hard to get.

Many of us like the chase, and once that’s over, we all lose interest. People seem so much more attractive when we think they don’t want us. Therefore, while so many good guys running after us, we choose to like someone who’s completely ignorant of our positive qualities.

We can’t just magically redirect our attraction to someone else, rather we aim to transform our personality to people we are attracted to. The problem is that we keep liking someone and changing our behavior for someone just because they don't text back, or provide us some sort of reassurance or closure on the relationship status. It takes courage and will to navigate away from these kind of guys.

So what should we do?

Snap out of it!

My recommendation is to be honest. We need to confront the guy with our feelings and expectations and see his response. If he likes us, he’ll change his “hard to get” behavior for us. If he doesn't want us, he’ll disappear. Well, If he disappears than we know he is not the guy for us!

Friends always tell us that when we meet the right person, we won’t run away from each other. It will get to a point that we want the same thing. We just wonder, when this will actually happen? Dating can take a lot of effort and pretty much everyone goes through it before they enter a serious relationship – so at least we know we're not alone in our exasperation :)