Be Who You Are

Guys have many requests about how they want their girl to be like. Some guys want their girlfriend to be like their mother, others want a girl to be active and live healthy, and some just want their girl to love sports. The secret ingredient for a healthy relationship is to either change only something you are willing to change, or accept each other's flaws.

A girl should never lower her standards. A guy can encourage, motivate, and teach but never give orders to change. When it comes to an unhealthy relationship, the first reasoning a girl could have is that she is not good enough, which not only hurts the relationship but also her confidence.

Remember that people will not always love you, but if you introduce yourself with a positive attitude, and love who you are, people will also love you. Being who you are and not who you think a man wants you to be, will serve you the best and sustain a healthy relationship.

Just a Hug

I was walking down my favorite path on the way back from class, thinking how I just want a hug and wishing to myself that this time he'll initiate a hug or even a small kiss. I ran home just to get there faster because I was needing that hug. I opened the door and saw him sitting on the couch with his legs crossed on the coffee table, watching his favorite TV show. He didn't pay attention to my arrival so I ran and jumped on the sofa to get his attention and hugged him to show some care, but he pushed me away and immediately asked if I had gone to the gym. I told him I was going later this evening, I was too tired. He grabbed my hand like he was grabbing something sticky from the floor, shook it, and said, "you're too weak, I love strong women." I felt uncomfortable, and told him with anger: "do you know that one of the best feelings in the world is to hug someone you love, do you love me"? Looked at him with watery eyes. At least he couldn't see me crying so he answered "of course I love you". "Then give me a hug" I said. He hugged me really tight but somehow I didn't feel loved. I asked myself, "do I actually love him? After all, hugging someone you love should feel good".

" I am also just a girl standing in front of a boy asking him to love her" ('Notting Hill')